August 18, 2016 0 Comments Tips

Are You Guilty Of Self-Sabotage?

Today I wanted to share a personal story with you.

In May 2014, I wished away my clients. You see, I had an influx of 15 new clients in 4 weeks and at the time this felt like a lot.

I felt overwhelmed, scared, started to panic and had self-doubt.

I had put a lot of effort into my business through writing and putting my goals into action, affirmations, positive thinking and asking the universe for a successful business.

It was happening – the beginning of everything I had worked and wished for.

Everything I had always wanted was so close; I was living with my fabulous boyfriend who that summer became my fiancé and then later my husband, we lived in an area I had always wished to live, we were healthy and my business was the remaining piece of the jigsaw puzzle.

Instead of celebrating my first instinct was to RUN!

So I wished away my business and unsurprisingly my client list grew smaller (the universe was responding to my thoughts).

All these feelings were caused by one destructive emotion – FEAR.

Fear is the most common emotional block and foundation of limiting beliefs.

Looking back I’m glad I experienced this as it forced me to become aware of how powerful my fears had become and how much fear was limiting my life. It kicked me into action to do something about it.

Can you recall a time when fear held you back?

“The fears we don’t face become our limits” Robin Sharma

Here are some tips to help overcome fear and prevent it from holding you back:

1. Know you are not alone
Everyone experiences fear at some point, it is normal – you are human.
It is okay to feel fearful, it is only when fear holds you back or limits you that it becomes problematic.

2. Be prepared to step out of your comfort zone and face your fears
Taking risks is a vital step to getting where you want to be. To grow, develop and transform you need to step out of your comfort zone, do something different and face those fears!
Usually the things we are most fearful to do are the ones that provide the best rewards. I always say ‘If it’s a challenge it’s worth doing’.

The thoughts are generally scarier than the reality!

3. Give yourself a pep talk
Ask yourself:
What’s the worst that can happen?
Then challenge what your answer is:
Would it be that bad?
Would it be something you couldn’t come back from?
Would it be worse than never trying?
What could you learn from the experience?

Then ask yourself:

What is the best thing that could happen?
Allow yourself a positive visual of what could happen.
Are you excited?
Isn’t it worth the risk?

4. Take a moment and trust yourself
Trust this is where you are meant to be on your life journey.
Take yourself out of the situation for a minute – take a walk, get some fresh air, take some time to breathe. This is an opportunity to connect with and trust your intuition. If you can do this and make a decision without fear being in the driving seat, it will be the right decision for you.

5. Be aware
Take some time to think about all the things that fear stops you from doing, first name is it a long list?
You can also keep a daily journal and see how frequently fear plays a part in your daily life.
This exercise helps us become aware of just how much damage fear is creating in our lives. Once this is realised, you will surprise yourself by how motivated you are to overcome your fears.

6. Write a letter
Write a letter to ‘fear’ (or name it something else if you prefer). Write everything you feel you want to say to your fears, download everything. Once you’ve finished burn the letter.
This is a good exercise to help you with letting go.

I would love to hear any other exercises you have used to help overcome fear.

If you would like to explore working together please book a free 30 minute discovery call with me.

Until next time

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