How to Boost your Self-Esteem and Confidence
Time and time again I hear about the same cause holding people back – whether it be from achieving the career they want, the relationship they seek or the lifestyle they dream of – this cause is fear.
Fear seems to be the most consistent negative emotion that stops people from doing what they want to do. This relates to your self-esteem which impacts upon your
confidence. I can relate to this, it took me a while to make the leap to set up my
homeopathic business due to my fears. What happens if I fail? Or if I’m not good enough? These were just a few negative thoughts that entered my mind.
Although fear will come around for most of us at some point, there are ways to
increase our self-esteem to enable us to overcome our fears and follow our dreams.
I wanted to share with you some of the steps that helped me to overcome my fears and led to setting up my practice.
1. Focus on your strengths
How many times a day do you use the word ‘can’t’ or find yourself saying ‘I’m not good at that’?
It is time to start focusing on what you are good at, start advertising and playing to your strengths. If you are unsure what these are, ask friends, family or colleagues what they value most about you and why. You can keep a record and start building a diary of strengths. Reflect on these daily, the more you think about and act upon your strengths the better you will feel about yourself!
2. Be kind to yourself
We are all guilty of being negative towards ourselves in our language and our actions. We are human; we all make mistakes – start forgiving yourself, understand what you can learn from the experience and move forward. If you do not, you will become stuck and your self-esteem will suffer as a consequence.
Start becoming aware of what you need. Do you need to sleep more, relax or have more fun? Try and make some space in your life for the things you need and enjoy – it is important and all part of self-care.
3. Start listening to your use of language
It is time to be aware of the language you use about and to yourself. People with high self-esteem do not tell themselves they are not good enough, a failure etc.
Positive affirmations are a good way to help combat negative and unhelpful thinking. One of my favorites is:
‘I love and accept myself exactly as I am’
For more on positive affirmations see my previous blog entry
Take this one step further and start talking to people in a positive way both about yourself as well as your general attitude. Put some energy into this! Actions are key to developing self-confidence.
4. Achievements and goal setting
Look at what you have achieved so far and write them down. This can be anything from passing an important exam, delivering a successful project, making a difference in someone else’s life etc. Look at these often – this will make you feel good and be confident about your abilities.
The next step is to set yourself goals; the point of this is to get into the habit of setting goals, achieving them and perhaps most importantly celebrating them! Be realistic, start with small goals and focus on your strengths, what comes naturally to you – work with the heavy stuff later. This also gets you into the ‘doing’ stage instead of always talking or thinking about ideas instead of actioning them!
5. Homeopathic Remedies
There are many homeopathic remedies that can help improve low self-confidence and/or self-esteem. Homeopathy works through bringing balance back to the body on an emotional, mental and physical level. Negative emotions/thoughts cause imbalance. Homeopathy facilitates change in emotional well being and helps people to move
forward in their life.
It is always better to work with a qualified homeopath and have a thorough
consultation as improving emotional well-being takes time and everyone has a
different story as to how they became the person they are today.
See below for an example of a couple of common homeopathic remedies I have used for low self-confidence or low self-esteem:
Lycopodium: people needing this remedy lack self-confidence and have an aversion to trying new things. This is generally connected with their fear of failure. They may
appear confident with a lot of ‘bravado’ in an effort to mask their insecurities. There may be history of being criticized a lot whilst growing up. This is a great remedy to take before having to speak publicly.
Staphysagria: There is a strong fear of losing self-control, many who require
this remedy have a history of some type of abuse. They generally have a lot of
suppressed emotions especially anger. They are very sensitive, dislike confrontation and are usually a ‘yes’ person or a ‘people pleaser’.
One last thing, do not forget to SMILE! I always feel better when I smile – simple but effective!
If you would like to explore further how I can help or would like to make an appointment please contact me.
See you next week!